20151228_182013103_iOSSpeaking with a seminary student today I was inspired for this week’s stretch. We spoke about the fear and violence in the world; the disparity of the “haves” and “have nots” in our country; and the turbulent political scenario playing out before us on the news each day. We spoke about the feeling of helplessness and hopelessness these events and situations present. And as we spoke I was reminded of Ghandi’s admonishment to “be the change you want to see in the world”.

When we discuss the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness in our Common Ground community Bob and I invite our members to do what they can do and sometimes the only thing we can do is envision something better. Our thoughts are part of the collective consciousness and it takes patience for the collective consciousness to reach cosmic mass to the point of influencing change. We can be part of making positive change when we project our vision for something better out into the flow of Universal Consciousness.

YOUR STRETCH: Take time this week to envision peace, equanimity, reason, freedom, beauty, kindness and love in our world. If the news of the day causes you distress, take a breath and allow a sense of warm peace to wash over you and emanate from you knowing that your effort is sending positive energy into the flow of collective consciousness.

Weekly Stretch – 1/22/16

nightlandingIn the nearly two weeks that my husband has been away we’ve learned many things about ourselves individually and about our relationship, not the least of which is that we hate being apart. No surprises there. One thing I noticed during the long days and nights when he was away was that I missed very mundane things about being together and realized so many things that I simply take for granted, some not as obvious as others. One thing I missed was the lingering smell of his cologne in the bedroom and bathroom long after he left for work each morning; the sound of the garage door opening in the evening that precedes him walking through the door; him taking Sophie out for the late walk; and of course him taking out the garbage…to name only a few. Chances are each of you has experienced missing someone you love at one time or another so you’ve also learned this lesson…the one where the little things mean so much. Bob’s absence for these two weeks made that lesson a poignant one for me.

We live on the flight path into Newark Airport and each day I’ve been keenly aware of the sound of the planes overhead. During those late night walks with Sophie, when I missed him the most, I’d look up at the lights of the airplanes and realize that they carried other people’s loved ones inside them. It made me think that at the same moment I’m missing my beloved many others are too, so I would send a prayer to everyone who was missing someone in that moment as I thought about how much I missed Bob.
Thus my inspiration for this week’s stretch:

YOUR STRETCH: Listen for the sound of airplanes overhead and use that sound as a mindfulness bell. Stop for a moment…think about your loved ones and send them your conscious appreciation. Then send a prayer for the safety of those flying overhead and for those who love them. It’s a wonderful opportunity to practice the fine art of mindfulness.

Weekly Stretch 1-15-16

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Hello all. Hoping you’ve had a great week. I’m happy to report that my husband returns home this evening – only for the weekend – but I’ll take it. He’s off again on Monday for one more week then back again for good next Friday. If you read my previous post you know that my Leo-Taurus-Cancer personalities and happy dancing and doing all the other stuff they do at the prospects ahead.

I’ve been reflecting on self-love and acceptance this week. Many things have challenged me these last few days and within those challenges I’ve thought a lot about worthiness and how to know that I’m “enough” without other people validating me as such. In all honesty, this is not an easy task for me as it’s been a lifelong challenge. However, I’ve worked hard on self-talk. You know, the voices in our heads that say “no one really cares what you think”, or “who are you to be heard, or seen, or valued”, or simply the sponsoring thought, “I’m not good enough”. These voices have been a bit louder this week, trying to override the positive affirmative thoughts I choose.

One of my most venerable gurus taught me a great trick many years ago. He taught me the “stop sign” method. When negative thoughts about myself show up I imagine a big red stop sign. It stops the process for a second or two so that I can make a change in the direction of my thoughts. In our Infinite Possibilities* classes we call this “flipping the thought”. I won’t say it’s always easy, but for the most part it works great. Essentially what we are saying to ourselves is, “Just Stop, and choose again”.

This week I’ve been flipping thoughts all over the place and thought it might be helpful to offer this as your stretch this week to encourage you to be really kind to yourself. More to come on this topic.

Your Stretch: If you find your thoughts drifting to unhelpful self-talk, STOP. Just STOP. Then take a nice long cleansing breath and replace those thoughts and voices with something wonderful. Imagine yourself laughing with your best friend or your children; imagine yourself outdoors on a beautiful sunny day and feel the warmth on your face; tell yourself that you are a unique child of the Universe; tune into your heartbeat and give thanks for the gift of Life. See yourself as your Creator sees you…beautiful in every way.

*Infinite Possibilities and Playing the Matrix are programs based on the work of Mike Dooley that my husband and I are certified to teach. If you are curious about this work please feel free to message me. I’d be happy to tell you more.


Change and The Cosmic Deal


I’m a Leo with Taurus and Cancer influences. It’s like being in a tug of war with your own nature. My Leo is sunny adventurous and on fire; she loves being sexy and looking pretty; and she loves to strut her stuff. She’s loves newness and change, hates routine and needs to be seen and beloved. Then there’s my Taurus nature, which is loyal and creative, independent and sensual, and a little bit stubborn at times. And that pesky, crabby Cancer whose intuition and sensitivity are both a blessing and a curse; she loves security and home and resists change. Yikes, it’s no wonder I get so exhausted. I’m trying to balance a wild and crazy jungle queen with a stubborn bull and a moody crab who likes to hide out sometimes.

Enter my life right now. Today my husband is packing for a trip to the Midwest to train for his exciting new job. He will be gone for 5 days and 6 nights (but who’s counting). In the 25 years we’ve been married we’ve rarely spent a night away from each other. We know many couples whose lives include long and short business trips, workshops or other travel away from each other. They are accustomed to it and it’s a natural part of their lives. This is so not “Us”. While we’ve been celebrating this wonderful new opportunity for his career and our future, we’ve been dreading the moment when we arrive at the airport and he and I are parted for what seems like eternity. I’ve noticed the crazy back and forth of emotions as the three major aspects of my aforementioned astrological natures battle it out making me feel like I’m playing schizophrenic ping-pong. And it’s all because of the dreaded and inevitable change that is intrinsic in the deal we all made when we decided to enter the earth experience.

Leo loves it! She’s doing a happy dance, dressed in a flashy red dress, in sexy strappy elevator heels, her long black tresses flinging wildly about. Ah she’s in her element. Boy does she ever love to live on the edge wondering what’s going to happen next. Change? Bring it on!

Taurus is working out how to manage the week on her own, somewhat excited ready to welcome the challenge. She enjoys being on her own and handling her business. She’s busy thinking about how to support her man, make sure he’s packed correctly and has everything he needs, cheering him on for the new adventure.

Ms. Cancer isn’t doing so well. She’s worried, wringing her hands, feeling insecure and uneasy. It’s going to rain. What if his flight is delayed? Will he be safe? Will I be safe? What’s the new job going to be like? Will it go well? So many questions about how this new job will impact our life. And what if we have to move again? Lions and tigers and bears, Oh My!

The expression “Shit Happens” comes to mind about now, only I’ve changed it to “Change Happens” because in reality it does. In my life change is exciting and thrilling. It’s also scary and unsettling. I think many people feel the same way, mostly because we’ve all experienced the variety of extremes that can and often accompany it. In my experience change has shown up in so many ways, sometimes delighting me and sometimes breaking my heart. From giving birth to my daughter to divorce; from learning to stand on my own two feet and celebrating my independence to re-uniting with my Twin Flame and marrying him. From new love to breakups – feeling safe and secure to walking a tightrope of fear and indecision. From knowing my parents are home and safe, to witnessing their decline and ultimately losing them both. And on and on it goes – new job, leaving jobs; daughter married; grandchild; graduations; happy days; fun days; sad days. Change! It’s inevitable and it’s part of the cosmic deal.

Some of us are like my Leo self, embracing it with zeal and hospitality, and a hearty, “Come on in”! Some of us are wary and stepping gingerly trying to navigate it with some level of skill like my Taurus. And, of course there’s the inevitable Cancer self with the obligatory worry and fear of the unknown and the desire for things to stay the same, please. I’m thinking for most of us it’s a beautiful concoction of all of the above with some other spices and aromas thrown in for good measure. Yes, it makes us uncomfortable to shake up the status quo. But how much status quo can we stand before stagnation sets in? The Universe has a wonderful way of knowing when that’s happening and, lo and behold, here it comes…change!!! The Leo in me says, “bring it” (while Taurus plans and Cancer worries).

One of my favorite poems from the beloved Sufi mystic Jalaluddin Rumi is entitled, “The Guest House”. It speaks of welcoming all aspects of change:

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

We are about to close the suitcases and prepare for a good night’s rest so my intrepid traveler husband and I can begin yet another new adventure. I know in my deepest knowing, where Truth is alive within me, that all is well and I open my arms to the new, even with my all too human trepidation and my Leo-Taurus-Cancer selves in tow. Ultimately the cosmic deal is all that counts. I welcome it, I honor it, and I say So It Is.

Franne Demetrician 1.9.16

Your Weekly Stretch 1-8-16

Welcome to a New Year!

As we step forward into a new year I feel the energy of all that is possible. Here in the northeast the chill has finally moved in, yet I’ve noticed that the sun hangs in the sky for a little bit longer each day. I love witnessing the forces of nature as they repeat their annual dance, and each year I feel more grateful and humble to be alive to appreciate it. My husband is about to start a new and exciting job and we are excited about all of the great opportunities we will have to be of service in the world. Yes, there are many challenges in the world and those challenges can make us fearful…but only if we allow ourselves to focus on them. I choose to see the possibility for the awakening of consciousness and to make my life’s work a part of that awakening. Join me?

Your Stretch: Take time each day to consciously notice your breath…breathing in peace and breathing out love. Imagine your breath as a wispy white vapor of peace as you inhale and allow yourself to feel its warmth fill your body. As you exhale imagine your breath as a beautiful swath of golden Lovelight that reaches from your heart to the ends of the earth. Let this be your prayer for the day.

P.S. The photo is of my grandson Logan at a fireworks display a few summers ago.