Author Elizabeth Stone writes: “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”
I would have to agree. I am blessed to be the mother of a wonderful young woman. She’s all grown up and has a family of her own. And no matter how old we both get, she’s my baby, my little girl, my child and my heart. I think every mother identifies with Elizabeth Stone’s quote.
On this Mother’s Day, not only do I want to be mindful of my own beloved mother who I miss every day, I want to acknowledge the women who have brought “mother energy” into the lives of so many. The teachers, nurses, caregivers, friends, sisters, aunts and grandmothers. I acknowledge the women in my own life whose nurturing has allowed me to feel held and loved and who are there for me to share in my triumphs and cares.
Motherhood is such an honor, and such a heavy responsibility. We are called to be the “carriers” of both the tiny being inside us, if we are fortunate enough to be able to carry a baby within; and the growing person for whom we are the carriers of “care and feeding” of their unique crawling and then walking being. Balancing the pressures of everyday life make mothering a unique challenge in that our children and family are often competing with many other responsibilities for our attention and energy. Many women feel “mommy guilt” as they try to juggle it all. Many of us fail to acknowledge ourselves for the balancing act we perform every day, attending to everyone’s needs and demands at home and at work, often leaving our own needs unattended.
STRETCH: Mothers…make yourself first! Take time to give yourself a break, any sort of break, be it a massage, a nap, a manicure or pedicure, a 15-minute walk, a quiet cup of coffee or tea, anything that allows you to stop, breathe, and attend to your own needs. Notice all that you do for others and acknowledge yourself, honor yourself, celebrate yourself. Appreciate yourself in any way that you can. Nurture yourself the way you nurture others. You deserve it!!!
Happy Mother’s Day!!